Sunday, 02.22.09

Sunday, 02.22.09
Week Three: He Said, She Said
Message Title: “No Pod Shots Allowed”
Scripture: Song of Solomon 5 & 6

MESSAGE RECAP:
In week three of He Said, She Said Pastor Daniel preached on Fighting Fair, looking at the example of Solomon and his wife in Song of Solomon 5 and 6.

Pastor began by describing how that we would all encounter conflict in our lives. Therefore the issue is not if we will fight but will we fight fair. We all have a choice to fight towards a resolution, which bring progress or fight for personal victory, which causes everyone to loose.

Pastor said that conflict is the result of unmet expectations. That we all, weather we realize it or not, carry unmet expectations into our relationships. Expectations about money, disciplining our children, religion, in regards to In-laws.

Pastor said that instead of acting in love to often we poke and prod until there is an explosion and then we spend the next few hours, days, months picking out the pieces of shrapnel from our lives. Simply because we choose the low ground – we didn’t overcome evil with good – we had to get our point across!! When we should overcome evil with good and leave the heart change of others up to God.

Pastor strongly advised couples that if they spend any amount of time trashing their spouse to their friends that they need to shut their mouth!!

QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER: 
* Will you act in love or react and try to bully your way in?
* Will you overcome evil with Good or will push your will?
* Will you play God or leave changing someones heart up to God?

RULES OF ENGAGEMENT IN CONFLICT:
1. Remove ALWAYS and NEVER from your vocabulary.
2. 10 second rule – wait 10 seconds to respond.
3. Timing is everything – know the right time to confront.
4. Leave the kids out of it – not in front of them and def. don’t bring them into it. (they will reproduce what is modeled for them)
5. Throw away old ammo
6. Be an Adult – no name calling, no stomping out of the room, no bringing other family members into the conflict.

SERVICE ELEMENTS:
Opener - “Love Song,” Sarah Bareilles 
“Salvations Chorus” - Northpoint Music
LC 411 - Special Live Edition, with Ashley LaSource
“He is Lord” - Hillsong, This is Our God
“You are my King” - Billy James Foote
He Said, She Said Intro Video
Message - “No Pod Shots Allowed”

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